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Friday, January 16, 2009
Developmental Milestones
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With this one I think we all need to be careful and not expect more or less out of a child. These seem like the basics on the developmental. I just think that some kids learn at their own pace. I agree that they should have most of these things conquered by the age stated, but i think we also need to remember that some kids will mature faster then others. it was a good reminder of the "little" things that we as caregivers need to remember.
I have to ask what if we have a child that is so far behind that we dont know how to go about helping? how would you talk to someone about it? or who would you talk to about this problem?
I need a little more information. How old is the child? Do you care for the child? Does the parent realize that the child is behind? Thanks, that information will be helpful. Pete
I want to know- what if a child is lagging in a few of these milestones but show signs of being advanced in other areas...??? One of my children I care for is extremely advanced in vocabulary and imagination. But, he is lagging incredibly in the areas of dressing and things of that nature and playing with others...??? is this a concern??
This informatin was very useful, as I teach children who are right on track with these stages, but the expectations of the parents are much higher, so it was hard for me to teach because, develpomentally, the children were not ready. I will use this information to help eduacate the parents and teach them that their children are not delayed, but they are just not ready to learn at the rate the parents believe they should be.
Where can I get information in Arizona for parents that need to take their children in for testing? Would it be too pushy to recommend this training to parents?
Too pushy almost always depends on how it's delivered. A flyer with suggested resources to all parents is almost never too pushy. An individual gentle conversation with parents who know you love their child and like and respect them, is rarely too pushy, but can backfire if you are not too careful. Here is the Arizona contact information. *
State Part C Coordinators Data Current as of September 1, 2009 Note: Because the following information is highly subject to change, NECTAC cannot ensure the accuracy of this contact list. Please E-mail corrections to this list to cathy_festa@unc.edu.
Alaska | Alabama | Arkansas | American Samoa | Arizona | Bureau of Indian Education | California | Colorado | Connecticut | District of Columbia | Department of Defense | Delaware | Florida | Georgia | Guam | Hawaii | Iowa | Idaho | Illinois | Indiana | Kansas | Kentucky | Louisiana | Massachusetts | Maryland | Maine | Michigan | Minnesota | Missouri | Northern Mariana Islands | Mississippi | Montana | North Carolina | North Dakota | Nebraska | New Hampshire | New Jersey | New Mexico | Nevada | New York | Ohio | Oklahoma | Oregon | Pennsylvania | Puerto Rico | Rhode Island | South Carolina | South Dakota | Tennessee | Texas | Utah | Virginia | Virgin Islands | Vermont | Washington | Wisconsin | West Virginia | Wyoming Alabama
Elizabeth Prince, Part C Coordinator Early Intervention Program Department of Rehabilitation Services 602 South Lawrence Street Mongtomery, AL 36104 Phone: (334) 293-7166 Fax: (334) 293-7375 Email: betsy.prince@rehab.alabama.gov Website: http://www.nectac.org/shortURL.asp?sURL=AL-partc Alaska
Erin Kinavey, Part C Coordinator State of Alaska/DHSS 323 East 4th Avenue PO Box 240249 Anchorage, AK 99501 Phone: (907) 269-3423 Fax: (907) 269-3497 Email: erin.kinavey@alaska.gov Website: http://health.hss.state.ak.us/ocs/InfantLearning/default.htm American Samoa
Jean Asuega, Part C Coordinator LBJ Tropical Medical Center PO Box 7477 Pago Pago, AS 96799 Phone: (684) 699-4987 Fax: (684) 699-4985 Email: jean.asuega@helpinghands-as.org Arizona
Molly Bright, Part C Coordinator and Exec Director Arizona Early Intervention Program Department of Economic Security 3839 North 3rd Street, Suite 304 Site Code #801 A-6 Phoenix, AZ 85012 Phone: (602) 532-9960 Fax: (602) 200-9820 AltPhone1: (888) 439-5609 (in AZ) Email: mdries@azdes.gov Website: https://egov.azdes.gov/CMSInternet/main.aspx?menu=98&id=3026
For anyone else who needs to find their state's contact information for screening, here is the website: http://www.nectac.org/contact/ptccoord.asp
As soon as you believe they may be delayed. In fact, all children really should be screened perodically whether you think they are delayed or not. Many states have free screening with Ages and Stages, which now starts as young as two months. You can contact your state's program through the website above to find out about screening.
Children seem to be doing things alot earlier these days. Then they did just a few years back. Babies holding their heads up sooner, crawling sooner, etc. However, it depends on the child.
Having a daycare for as many years as I have and for as long as some of the children have been here its like raising my own. With that said I have them more than most parents do so to know what to look for with there milestones and where each child needs to be it helps my parents as well. That way I can keep a close eye on there children for early detection.
Do I need to be concernd if a child can interact with other children but the children do not always understand him becasue of his speech?? How do I tell the parents that this child may have a problem with maybe even his hearing or if it is a development problem?
Milestones is such a hard thing to figure out sometimes...is this one delayed or is something else wrong? This is where we need to turn for help from others. I am a parent with a 18 month old boy who has met most of his milestones but says very few words. I asked the doctor about my concern and told her I was teaching him sign language. She told me that because I'm teaching him to sign that he will be delayed and will need speech in grade school. ( SAY WHAT?) Isn't that what most parents are doing with their child/children to start communicating with them? The daycare at which i work at is trying to push him into the 2 year old room already and I'm torn about it...One of the reasons they didn't send a 2 year old boy down was cause he wasn't talking. ( Did I miss something about why my child is ready then?)Yes my son is pretty much 2x the size of his friends and understands what you are saying he isn't able to commuicate back with one. how would you feel if it was your kid? Carolyn
I think we should be very careful not to "jump the gun" on the child's milestones. Some children are ahead and some are a little late due to personality. Watch for other signals to see if something is wrong.
If a child that I have been taking care of suddenly gives no acknowledgment of knowing you after 2 weeks apart. This child is 16 months. He was sucking on a bottle, I was talking to him in the car, he never looked at me. I took his hand and rubbed on it and finally he looked, but there was no expression. It was very odd and I can't get that out of my mind.
Yes its true and we all know that children develope at their own paces. Sometimes we forget that they are children and being so they respond so much to ecouragement. As children are learning we too learn with them and we forget that we encourage them without realising. Think back to things like potty training. When they get it right we praise them and through this praise they learn they are doing to right thing and in turn it becomes natural. Same as in any situation with children allow them to develope in their own pace and continuously praise them and things become second nature and they do not feel in anyway a failure.
This is to Shayla Matthews comment --- I have a child and at 6 and half could not read or write. With the cooperation of a new teacher one to one and a steady program at home (which had to be made fun) within 6 months caught up with her age group. If you are talking about your own child you do need outside help just for the patience level. I found working with someone elses child easier to instigate the developement as you are more patient but one to one teaching and praisal worked.
While having these milestones in writing is helpful, I think it is very important for parents not to panic if their child has delays in a few areas. Some children mature and learn at their own pace and this is not a sign for immediate panic. We all learn in differnt ways and it might take one child longer to learn a certain skill than his/her peer. The public schools do have screenings and tests to identify if your child is significantly delayed and they will have further suggestions for you.
I think that many children learn and develop at their own pace. My daughter started rolling over, crawling and walking 1-2 months after the "developmental milestones" say she should have but she did get there & she is more advanced in other areas-and Doctor says she is healthy in all ways. So I think that we should not be quick to jump to assumptions nor be quick to put titles on children (ie-ADHD, etc.) On the other hand-it is still good to keep in mind & make sure we are helping them learn what they need to and what to be able to expect from them at each stage in their life as they are growing. I know my parents ask me a lot about what their kids should and shouldnt be doing-so this does help me as a guide.
A child in my day care class was very advanced in most skills but lacking in scial skills, I suspected Autism and wanted to have her tested but the parents would not accept that there was something wrong with their child. L.W.S.H
while these may have been normal milestones for many children, what about the children(like mine) that is way ahead of schedule? my son started walking at 7 months and was talking clearly and in sentences by the time he was 1 and a half.
The milestone info was very informative for me. What a great resource to have with just a click. I think kids are all different in reaching their milestones, however I also think there are basic skills they all should have and being too far behind is an alert for me. With my daycare I have a child information sheet. It is two pages long. It is for the parent to fill out about their child everything from likes, dislikes, behavioral problems, how the child reacts when mad, anger issues, what problems if any the child may have. I also include what the parent would like their child to learn in my care. What the goals are for the child etc, etc. I also have an evaluation sheet where I will will see depending on age, where the child is at regarding saying abc's or colors and so on. This really helps me help them and also the other kids. I can now make a plan to include and then work on the areas with a child I may need to. I will absolutely be using this for help in my daycare. shannon t
I think every child does grow up differently and at different paces. However, if we know what delays to look for in my mind we will know possibly that something is wrong. If you notice a child is developmentally delayed and the parent has no idea. Is there a good approach to the parent anyone could suggest without making the parent feel automatically defensive?
I feel every child grows up at a different pace. However if we know the signs to look for than maybe we can detect this earlier and help the child. How would one go about going to a parent and telling them you are noticing a delay without them feeling defensive? shannont
Sandwhich it. Start with things the child is doing well and perhaps some positive things you've noticed in parenting. Then talk about some areas where s/he might use some additional help. Then continue with more strengths. You may want to have a brochure or name and number for local services as well. Another thing you can do is arrange a screening for all the children, get permission from the parents, then let the person speak with the parent if there are concerns.
I think this information is very useful for parents/teachers/daycare providers if they have concerns that a child is not developing certain things when they should. In my own experience as a mother I have to say that mychildren are right on track. My son was tongue-tied at birth and we didn't notice an issue with it until he was about 3 years old. He ended up having minor surgery done to get that fixed and is now going through speech thereapy for it. Even with this "issue" in the way he has still developing his other skills as he should be and he is 5 years old now.
You are fortunate. Some children who have difficult with speech are teased and learn to act out to fit in and get attention. My son had difficulties with speech. He still has some articulation issues but not near as much as he used to. He was teased, he got behind and it took a number of years to help him excel...which he now does getting almost straight "A"s in college.
They say that children cannot focus on objects or people for that matter when they are born, but my son looked straight at me the moment we first laid eyes on eachother and he has been extremely alert and he pays attention to details at an early age. He's been doing things that a child of a later age should be doing, when he was first born and he still continues to amaze me and my husband!!!!
I think the more time that is spent with interactiong with parents help children reach certain milestones before they should. The more attention that children get helps stimulate their brains.
I think we all need to becareful and not to except more or less out of a child. I think some kids learn at their own pace. Just remember some kids will mature faster than others no matter what you want out ofyour child
Hi, My 2nd son is 22 months old and is average in his physical milestones. He can run, kick, climb etc. but he cant talk! He says about a total of 5 or 6 words. He has horrible temper tantrums, which I assume is because he is frustrated. We have been aware of it for some time, he is enrolled in our state funded Early Intervention program, where they come to the house once a month to 'play' with him for about 45 minutes but I have seen no progress. Im just not quite sure what to do, should I just stay patient and hope he talks by 3 or possibly take him to a private center for further evaluation? Possibly find out if there is something else going on?
While play is a great way to teach young children there is more to it than just having someone come to your home and play with your child periodically. They should be teaching you things you can do to help your child. Follow the links from: http://www.childdevelopment.me.uk/EBP_Autism.html for more information. While this was written specifically for autism, it is the same for many other delays as well.
yes this is a good general idea of developmental rates but children should receive regular well child check ups and remember each child is an individual
We have a child in daycare that has been diagnosed with a form of autism. she was diagnosed when she was 2. She is now 7. The parents still do not accept it. They do not say the "A". They willnot allow her to attend any camps or classes that have "autism" in the title. Is there anything we can do to help this situation?
This is very difficult. Hopefully she is in school. Hopefully the school will address it as well as possible through the parent/teacher conference; but until the parent is ready to seek the right intervention, it will be very difficult.
The question of what to think if a child is far behind in some me stones yet way ahead in others raises a good question. Do you just even out the milestones or do you seek extra help for the milestones the child is lacking in? And also, does that mean the child is going to be behind in life or is he or she just developing at their own pace?
Sometimes a child is never able to make up the difference; but often, especially if caught and worked on early and in the most effective way, they are able to make progress and sometimes great progress.
Children learn at their own pace. I think a lot of things factor into it as well. Some children might be behind in their vocabulary and conversation skill simply because they weren't properly taught and it takes them a little longer to catch on. Some don't walk until much later because they are probably held to much or some other reason. It all depends on the child and the environment the child is growing up in.
I really enjoyed learning about the milestones a child goes through because I have a 8 month old and I am amazed by the different things that she is learning to do and accomplish.
I liked the lists of where children should be at different ages. It was very helpful as I work with children ages birth to Kindergarten. But also being reminded in one the videos that children are each different and being aware of where a child is at. Some a little slower in some processes and some moving ahead. Letting the child develop at their own pace. But always being involved in the process and helping children develop. Rachel Madsen
Its true children grow and develop differently. I've raise 3 children, each have their own character and personality that were noticeably the moment they were born. My first child was below the growth chart, and 2nd child was just within above the normal growth chart and the last one just exceeded the chart. I read the book about what to expect when your pregnant. I learned that as the baby begin to develop you can begin stimulations while inside a mothers womb! Such as, talking and reading( at bedtime I read Dictionary and Encyclopedia books) to them while their were still in my abdomen and I even attached headphone to my belly listening to classical musics Mozart and Beethoven. To some that maybe to much, but I can proudly say I believe they help because all 3 played musical instruments, are student scholars elementary through high school and are now currently getting their college and doctorate degree's! It is true everything starts at home, parents is the biggest influencer to a child's growth and development.
I have learn from these readings and videos that are some adequate development for certain ages. For example, 12 months old, imitate actions; 18 months old, like to pull and push things; 2 years old use 2-4 phrases; 3 years old, play with others; 4 years old, jump from step; 5 years old, bathe self and dress alone.
I would like to know, what we should do to stimulate more our children?
I have learn from these readings and videos that are some adequate development for certain ages. For example, 12 months old, imitate actions; 18 months old, like to pull and push things; 2 years old use 2-4 phrases; 3 years old, play with others; 4 years old, jump from step; 5 years old, bathe self and dress alone.
I would like to know, what we should do to stimulate more our children?
I have learn from these readings and videos that are some adequate development for certain ages. For example, 12 months old, imitate actions; 18 months old, like to pull and push things; 2 years old use 2-4 phrases; 3 years old, play with others; 4 years old, jump from step; 5 years old, bathe self and dress alone.
I would like to know, what we should do to stimulate more our children?
The milestone information is very important to have and to read often when you have small ones around. For me it was important to hear from my son's doctor that eventhough these milestones are important and important to have and make...partents also have to remember that all kids are not the same and will make these milestones when they are ready. Some early and some a bit later. And just because the child is a bit later...doesnt mean they are automatically delayed.
I appreciated this video a lot. My son has developed slower than the average child and has done everything on his own time at his own pace. Now that I work with children and am a preschool teacher as well as a mother, I am amazed to see the difference developments of each of my three year old's in class. One is doing kindergarten work while the other is just learning her colors, shapes, etc. It's reassuring as a mother that each child has his/her own pace and very informative as a teacher to remember each child is different but will get there eventually. I enjoyed this video
The list of Milestones is very helpful. Before I was a parent, I was a daycare teacher. The list helped me figure out where my daughter was and what to help her improve on. Not only did I use it for at home, but I of course used it for the children and their lesson planning. I used it to introduce new things that they have not yet been introduced to. If it was to tough for them, I would take notes to remind myself on what to help them work on or to even take the steps into getting there, but I did not force them, I let them do it if they wanted to. Example being building houses and towers out of blocks during free choice play.
I really liked the philosophy of the Dr. on the Development Milestones video. She emphasizes not putting pressure on the children to meet the milestones but rather let them develop at their own rate. We have had twins at 36 weeks gestation so when my husband has had questions I have tried to reinforce the same type of philosophy with him. If you do have questions or concerns though, your best back up is always going to be your kids' pediatrician and ours was able to evaluate our kids' development as they grew.
I really enjoyed going through the milestones check list. I have a 18 month old son and this helped me realize areas where I could work with him to develop some of his milestones. Colby K.
I found these milestones very useful. I have a 3 year old boy and I used to think that he was behind in learning his colors. But after reading this he is right on track. He now is learning them and seems to do just fine. I also think that every child learns and develops at their own pace. Cassadi
What a wonderful resource for parents. The developmental milestones are so helpful. My daughter had severe dyslexia. It was not diagnosed until she was in Kindergarten. At that time we noted that she did not have a dominant side, would switch from left to right hand all the time. We had a doctor tell us that it was very important that for development a child have a dominant side. I would have encouraged my daughter to use the same side to help with her development if I had known this. Question: Do you believe this as well. Yyvonne
To watch this was interesting. The milestones set for each age group can now be hard to follow. Some children reach them at an earlier age, and some at an older age. They are a good outline to keep an eye on, but not to stress you out if your child isn't meeting them right away. My daughter was her head up on her own right after she was born, by 9 months she could stand and walk on her own and at the time it concerned me that it was way to early and may cause problems. Like the video says you are your child's advocate so keep an eye on there progress.And help them to the best of your abilities
I understand I have visits with my daughter she is only 1 years old and I notice she isn't walking probably because she was a preemie, but I find this helpful because even though I had 6 kids all lost to the system except one,because of my mistakes. I tend to forget how they are such as walking,talking wise, I forget how to be a parent, but this helps reminds me of what to expect when they turn a different age. Thank you. Sincerely, Toshionna Skannel
I understand I have visits with my daughter she is only 1 years old and I notice she isn't walking probably because she was a preemie, but I find this helpful because even though I had 6 kids all lost to the system except one,because of my mistakes. I tend to forget how they are such as walking,talking wise, I forget how to be a parent, but this helps reminds me of what to expect when they turn a different age. Thank you. Sincerely, Toshionna Skannel
It was very hard for me at first when I had my second child you have all these super high expectations that a hey are going to this and that the same time as the older one did or maybe sooner or better. It took me a little while to tell myself to step back and for it to sink in that they will learn to do things at their own pace. I think I kind of pushed my second one a little to much when he was around two but he seems to be doing a lot better now he's 8 super bright kid. :)
All my children have completely different personalities and developed at different speeds. I have 6 children all together and I learned to let them go at their own pace with most major milestones...
67 comments:
With this one I think we all need to be careful and not expect more or less out of a child. These seem like the basics on the developmental. I just think that some kids learn at their own pace. I agree that they should have most of these things conquered by the age stated, but i think we also need to remember that some kids will mature faster then others. it was a good reminder of the "little" things that we as caregivers need to remember.
I have to ask what if we have a child that is so far behind that we dont know how to go about helping? how would you talk to someone about it? or who would you talk to about this problem?
I need a little more information. How old is the child? Do you care for the child? Does the parent realize that the child is behind? Thanks, that information will be helpful.
Pete
I want to know- what if a child is lagging in a few of these milestones but show signs of being advanced in other areas...??? One of my children I care for is extremely advanced in vocabulary and imagination. But, he is lagging incredibly in the areas of dressing and things of that nature and playing with others...??? is this a concern??
This informatin was very useful, as I teach children who are right on track with these stages, but the expectations of the parents are much higher, so it was hard for me to teach because, develpomentally, the children were not ready. I will use this information to help eduacate the parents and teach them that their children are not delayed, but they are just not ready to learn at the rate the parents believe they should be.
Yes it can be. For example a child can have difficluties with fine motor skills but be advanced in other areas.
Pete
I am so excited to take this infromation to work, and see how I can make a difference. This is great info!
I will let all of my coworkers know about this training. I think we can work together to help the children at our center develop appropriately.
What is the best age to send a child in for testing if we think they are delayed?
Where can I get information in Arizona for parents that need to take their children in for testing?
Would it be too pushy to recommend this training to parents?
Too pushy almost always depends on how it's delivered. A flyer with suggested resources to all parents is almost never too pushy. An individual gentle conversation with parents who know you love their child and like and respect them, is rarely too pushy, but can backfire if you are not too careful.
Here is the Arizona contact information.
*
State Part C Coordinators
Data Current as of September 1, 2009 Note: Because the following information is highly subject to change, NECTAC cannot ensure the accuracy of this contact list. Please E-mail corrections to this list to cathy_festa@unc.edu.
Alaska | Alabama | Arkansas | American Samoa | Arizona | Bureau of Indian Education | California | Colorado | Connecticut | District of Columbia | Department of Defense | Delaware | Florida | Georgia | Guam | Hawaii | Iowa | Idaho | Illinois | Indiana | Kansas | Kentucky | Louisiana | Massachusetts | Maryland | Maine | Michigan | Minnesota | Missouri | Northern Mariana Islands | Mississippi | Montana | North Carolina | North Dakota | Nebraska | New Hampshire | New Jersey | New Mexico | Nevada | New York | Ohio | Oklahoma | Oregon | Pennsylvania | Puerto Rico | Rhode Island | South Carolina | South Dakota | Tennessee | Texas | Utah | Virginia | Virgin Islands | Vermont | Washington | Wisconsin | West Virginia | Wyoming
Alabama
Elizabeth Prince, Part C Coordinator
Early Intervention Program
Department of Rehabilitation Services
602 South Lawrence Street
Mongtomery, AL 36104
Phone: (334) 293-7166
Fax: (334) 293-7375
Email: betsy.prince@rehab.alabama.gov
Website: http://www.nectac.org/shortURL.asp?sURL=AL-partc
Alaska
Erin Kinavey, Part C Coordinator
State of Alaska/DHSS
323 East 4th Avenue
PO Box 240249
Anchorage, AK 99501
Phone: (907) 269-3423
Fax: (907) 269-3497
Email: erin.kinavey@alaska.gov
Website: http://health.hss.state.ak.us/ocs/InfantLearning/default.htm
American Samoa
Jean Asuega, Part C Coordinator
LBJ Tropical Medical Center
PO Box 7477
Pago Pago, AS 96799
Phone: (684) 699-4987
Fax: (684) 699-4985
Email: jean.asuega@helpinghands-as.org
Arizona
Molly Bright, Part C Coordinator and Exec Director
Arizona Early Intervention Program
Department of Economic Security
3839 North 3rd Street, Suite 304
Site Code #801 A-6
Phoenix, AZ 85012
Phone: (602) 532-9960
Fax: (602) 200-9820
AltPhone1: (888) 439-5609 (in AZ)
Email: mdries@azdes.gov
Website: https://egov.azdes.gov/CMSInternet/main.aspx?menu=98&id=3026
For anyone else who needs to find their state's contact information for screening, here is the website: http://www.nectac.org/contact/ptccoord.asp
As soon as you believe they may be delayed. In fact, all children really should be screened perodically whether you think they are delayed or not. Many states have free screening with Ages and Stages, which now starts as young as two months. You can contact your state's program through the website above to find out about screening.
Thank you. I'm glad you are getting something of value out of it.
Children seem to be doing things alot earlier these days. Then they did just a few years back. Babies holding their heads up sooner, crawling sooner, etc. However, it depends on the child.
Having a daycare for as many years as I have and for as long as some of the children have been here its like raising my own. With that said I have them more than most parents do so to know what to look for with there milestones and where each child needs to be it helps my parents as well. That way I can keep a close eye on there children for early detection.
Do I need to be concernd if a child can interact with other children but the children do not always understand him becasue of his speech?? How do I tell the parents that this child may have a problem with maybe even his hearing or if it is a development problem?
Milestones is such a hard thing to figure out sometimes...is this one delayed or is something else wrong? This is where we need to turn for help from others. I am a parent with a 18 month old boy who has met most of his milestones but says very few words. I asked the doctor about my concern and told her I was teaching him sign language. She told me that because I'm teaching him to sign that he will be delayed and will need speech in grade school. ( SAY WHAT?) Isn't that what most parents are doing with their child/children to start communicating with them? The daycare at which i work at is trying to push him into the 2 year old room already and I'm torn about it...One of the reasons they didn't send a 2 year old boy down was cause he wasn't talking. ( Did I miss something about why my child is ready then?)Yes my son is pretty much 2x the size of his friends and understands what you are saying he isn't able to commuicate back with one. how would you feel if it was your kid? Carolyn
I think we should be very careful not to "jump the gun" on the child's milestones. Some children are ahead and some are a little late due to personality. Watch for other signals to see if something is wrong.
If a child that I have been taking care of suddenly gives no acknowledgment of knowing you after 2 weeks apart. This child is 16 months. He was sucking on a bottle, I was talking to him in the car, he never looked at me. I took his hand and rubbed on it and finally he looked, but there was no expression. It was very odd and I can't get that out of my mind.
Yes its true and we all know that children develope at their own paces. Sometimes we forget that they are children and being so they respond so much to ecouragement. As children are learning we too learn with them and we forget that we encourage them without realising. Think back to things like potty training. When they get it right we praise them and through this praise they learn they are doing to right thing and in turn it becomes natural. Same as in any situation with children allow them to develope in their own pace and continuously praise them and things become second nature and they do not feel in anyway a failure.
This is to Shayla Matthews comment --- I have a child and at 6 and half could not read or write. With the cooperation of a new teacher one to one and a steady program at home (which had to be made fun) within 6 months caught up with her age group. If you are talking about your own child you do need outside help just for the patience level. I found working with someone elses child easier to instigate the developement as you are more patient but one to one teaching and praisal worked.
While having these milestones in writing is helpful, I think it is very important for parents not to panic if their child has delays in a few areas. Some children mature and learn at their own pace and this is not a sign for immediate panic. We all learn in differnt ways and it might take one child longer to learn a certain skill than his/her peer. The public schools do have screenings and tests to identify if your child is significantly delayed and they will have further suggestions for you.
I think that many children learn and develop at their own pace. My daughter started rolling over, crawling and walking 1-2 months after the "developmental milestones" say she should have but she did get there & she is more advanced in other areas-and Doctor says she is healthy in all ways. So I think that we should not be quick to jump to assumptions nor be quick to put titles on children (ie-ADHD, etc.) On the other hand-it is still good to keep in mind & make sure we are helping them learn what they need to and what to be able to expect from them at each stage in their life as they are growing. I know my parents ask me a lot about what their kids should and shouldnt be doing-so this does help me as a guide.
A child in my day care class was very advanced in most skills but lacking in scial skills, I suspected Autism and wanted to have her tested but the parents would not accept that there was something wrong with their child.
L.W.S.H
while these may have been normal milestones for many children, what about the children(like mine) that is way ahead of schedule? my son started walking at 7 months and was talking clearly and in sentences by the time he was 1 and a half.
Provide fun and safe opportunities, not pressure, for him to continue to excel.
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The milestone info was very informative for me. What a great resource to have with just a click. I think kids are all different in reaching their milestones, however I also think there are basic skills they all should have and being too far behind is an alert for me. With my daycare I have a child information sheet. It is two pages long. It is for the parent to fill out about their child everything from likes, dislikes, behavioral problems, how the child reacts when mad, anger issues, what problems if any the child may have. I also include what the parent would like their child to learn in my care. What the goals are for the child etc, etc. I also have an evaluation sheet where I will will see depending on age, where the child is at regarding saying abc's or colors and so on. This really helps me help them and also the other kids. I can now make a plan to include and then work on the areas with a child I may need to.
I will absolutely be using this for help in my daycare. shannon t
I think every child does grow up differently and at different paces. However, if we know what delays to look for in my mind we will know possibly that something is wrong. If you notice a child is developmentally delayed and the parent has no idea. Is there a good approach to the parent anyone could suggest without making the parent feel automatically defensive?
I feel every child grows up at a different pace. However if we know the signs to look for than maybe we can detect this earlier and help the child. How would one go about going to a parent and telling them you are noticing a delay without them feeling defensive? shannont
Sandwhich it. Start with things the child is doing well and perhaps some positive things you've noticed in parenting. Then talk about some areas where s/he might use some additional help. Then continue with more strengths. You may want to have a brochure or name and number for local services as well.
Another thing you can do is arrange a screening for all the children, get permission from the parents, then let the person speak with the parent if there are concerns.
I think this information is very useful for parents/teachers/daycare providers if they have concerns that a child is not developing certain things when they should. In my own experience as a mother I have to say that mychildren are right on track. My son was tongue-tied at birth and we didn't notice an issue with it until he was about 3 years old. He ended up having minor surgery done to get that fixed and is now going through speech thereapy for it. Even with this "issue" in the way he has still developing his other skills as he should be and he is 5 years old now.
You are fortunate. Some children who have difficult with speech are teased and learn to act out to fit in and get attention. My son had difficulties with speech. He still has some articulation issues but not near as much as he used to. He was teased, he got behind and it took a number of years to help him excel...which he now does getting almost straight "A"s in college.
They say that children cannot focus on objects or people for that matter when they are born, but my son looked straight at me the moment we first laid eyes on eachother and he has been extremely alert and he pays attention to details at an early age. He's been doing things that a child of a later age should be doing, when he was first born and he still continues to amaze me and my husband!!!!
Selena
Infants can focus at about 12 to 18 inches and they can focus on their parent almost or right from birth.
I think the more time that is spent with interactiong with parents help children reach certain milestones before they should. The more attention that children get helps stimulate their brains.
I think we all need to becareful and not to except more or less out of a child. I think some kids learn at their own pace. Just remember some kids will mature faster than others no matter what you want out ofyour child
Hi, My 2nd son is 22 months old and is average in his physical milestones. He can run, kick, climb etc. but he cant talk! He says about a total of 5 or 6 words. He has horrible temper tantrums, which I assume is because he is frustrated. We have been aware of it for some time, he is enrolled in our state funded Early Intervention program, where they come to the house once a month to 'play' with him for about 45 minutes but I have seen no progress. Im just not quite sure what to do, should I just stay patient and hope he talks by 3 or possibly take him to a private center for further evaluation? Possibly find out if there is something else going on?
While play is a great way to teach young children there is more to it than just having someone come to your home and play with your child periodically. They should be teaching you things you can do to help your child. Follow the links from: http://www.childdevelopment.me.uk/EBP_Autism.html for more information. While this was written specifically for autism, it is the same for many other delays as well.
yes this is a good general idea of developmental rates but children should receive regular well child check ups and remember each child is an individual
We have a child in daycare that has been diagnosed with a form of autism. she was diagnosed when she was 2. She is now 7. The parents still do not accept it. They do not say the
"A". They willnot allow her to attend any camps or classes that have "autism" in the title. Is there anything we can do to help this situation?
This is very difficult. Hopefully she is in school. Hopefully the school will address it as well as possible through the parent/teacher conference; but until the parent is ready to seek the right intervention, it will be very difficult.
The question of what to think if a child is far behind in some me stones yet way ahead in others raises a good question. Do you just even out the milestones or do you seek extra help for the milestones the child is lacking in? And also, does that mean the child is going to be behind in life or is he or she just developing at their own pace?
Sometimes a child is never able to make up the difference; but often, especially if caught and worked on early and in the most effective way, they are able to make progress and sometimes great progress.
Children learn at their own pace. I think a lot of things factor into it as well. Some children might be behind in their vocabulary and conversation skill simply because they weren't properly taught and it takes them a little longer to catch on. Some don't walk until much later because they are probably held to much or some other reason. It all depends on the child and the environment the child is growing up in.
I think all this advice will help in the class I am in with my kids.
this way I will know what to look for and what they need help with.
I really enjoyed learning about the milestones a child goes through because I have a 8 month old and I am amazed by the different things that she is learning to do and accomplish.
I liked the lists of where children should be at different ages. It was very helpful as I work with children ages birth to Kindergarten. But also being reminded in one the videos that children are each different and being aware of where a child is at. Some a little slower in some processes and some moving ahead. Letting the child develop at their own pace. But always being involved in the process and helping children develop. Rachel Madsen
Its true children grow and develop differently. I've raise 3 children, each have their own character and personality that were noticeably the moment they were born. My first child was below the growth chart, and 2nd child was just within above the normal growth chart and the last one just exceeded the chart. I read the book about what to expect when your pregnant. I learned that as the baby begin to develop you can begin stimulations while inside a mothers womb! Such as, talking and reading( at bedtime I read Dictionary and Encyclopedia books) to them while their were still in my abdomen and I even attached headphone to my belly listening to classical musics Mozart and Beethoven. To some that maybe to much, but I can proudly say I believe they help because all 3 played musical instruments, are student scholars elementary through high school and are now currently getting their college and doctorate degree's! It is true everything starts at home, parents is the biggest influencer to a child's growth and development.
Catalina Rodriguez said:
I have learn from these readings and videos that are some adequate development for certain ages. For example, 12 months old, imitate actions; 18 months old, like to pull and push things; 2 years old use 2-4 phrases; 3 years old, play with others; 4 years old, jump from step; 5 years old, bathe self and dress alone.
I would like to know, what we should do to stimulate more our children?
Thanks,
Catalina
Catalina Rodriguez said:
I have learn from these readings and videos that are some adequate development for certain ages. For example, 12 months old, imitate actions; 18 months old, like to pull and push things; 2 years old use 2-4 phrases; 3 years old, play with others; 4 years old, jump from step; 5 years old, bathe self and dress alone.
I would like to know, what we should do to stimulate more our children?
Thanks,
Catalina
Catalina Rodriguez said:
I have learn from these readings and videos that are some adequate development for certain ages. For example, 12 months old, imitate actions; 18 months old, like to pull and push things; 2 years old use 2-4 phrases; 3 years old, play with others; 4 years old, jump from step; 5 years old, bathe self and dress alone.
I would like to know, what we should do to stimulate more our children?
Thanks,
Catalina
this is very helpful in formation i can use at daycare and help with babys
The milestone information is very important to have and to read often when you have small ones around. For me it was important to hear from my son's doctor that eventhough these milestones are important and important to have and make...partents also have to remember that all kids are not the same and will make these milestones when they are ready. Some early and some a bit later. And just because the child is a bit later...doesnt mean they are automatically delayed.
I appreciated this video a lot. My son has developed slower than the average child and has done everything on his own time at his own pace. Now that I work with children and am a preschool teacher as well as a mother, I am amazed to see the difference developments of each of my three year old's in class. One is doing kindergarten work while the other is just learning her colors, shapes, etc. It's reassuring as a mother that each child has his/her own pace and very informative as a teacher to remember each child is different but will get there eventually. I enjoyed this video
The list of Milestones is very helpful.
Before I was a parent, I was a daycare teacher. The list helped me figure out where my daughter was and what to help her improve on. Not only did I use it for at home, but I of course used it for the children and their lesson planning. I used it to introduce new things that they have not yet been introduced to. If it was to tough for them, I would take notes to remind myself on what to help them work on or to even take the steps into getting there, but I did not force them, I let them do it if they wanted to. Example being building houses and towers out of blocks during free choice play.
I really liked the philosophy of the Dr. on the Development Milestones video. She emphasizes not putting pressure on the children to meet the milestones but rather let them develop at their own rate. We have had twins at 36 weeks gestation so when my husband has had questions I have tried to reinforce the same type of philosophy with him. If you do have questions or concerns though, your best back up is always going to be your kids' pediatrician and ours was able to evaluate our kids' development as they grew.
I really enjoyed going through the milestones check list. I have a 18 month old son and this helped me realize areas where I could work with him to develop some of his milestones.
Colby K.
Great resource. As was said above, it's always important to take each child and their unique situations into consideration when evaluating them.
I found these milestones very useful. I have a 3 year old boy and I used to think that he was behind in learning his colors. But after reading this he is right on track. He now is learning them and seems to do just fine. I also think that every child learns and develops at their own pace.
Cassadi
What a wonderful resource for parents. The developmental milestones are so helpful. My daughter had severe dyslexia. It was not diagnosed until she was in Kindergarten. At that time we noted that she did not have a dominant side, would switch from left to right hand all the time. We had a doctor tell us that it was very important that for development a child have a dominant side. I would have encouraged my daughter to use the same side to help with her development if I had known this. Question: Do you believe this as well.
Yyvonne
To watch this was interesting. The milestones set for each age group can now be hard to follow. Some children reach them at an earlier age, and some at an older age. They are a good outline to keep an eye on, but not to stress you out if your child isn't meeting them right away. My daughter was her head up on her own right after she was born, by 9 months she could stand and walk on her own and at the time it concerned me that it was way to early and may cause problems. Like the video says you are your child's advocate so keep an eye on there progress.And help them to the best of your abilities
I understand I have visits with my daughter she is only 1 years old and I notice she isn't walking probably because she was a preemie, but I find this helpful because even though I had 6 kids all lost to the system except one,because of my mistakes. I tend to forget how they are such as walking,talking wise, I forget how to be a parent, but this helps reminds me of what to expect when they turn a different age. Thank you.
Sincerely, Toshionna Skannel
I understand I have visits with my daughter she is only 1 years old and I notice she isn't walking probably because she was a preemie, but I find this helpful because even though I had 6 kids all lost to the system except one,because of my mistakes. I tend to forget how they are such as walking,talking wise, I forget how to be a parent, but this helps reminds me of what to expect when they turn a different age. Thank you.
Sincerely, Toshionna Skannel
It was very hard for me at first when I had my second child you have all these super high expectations that a hey are going to this and that the same time as the older one did or maybe sooner or better. It took me a little while to tell myself to step back and for it to sink in that they will learn to do things at their own pace. I think I kind of pushed my second one a little to much when he was around two but he seems to be doing a lot better now he's 8 super bright kid. :)
All my children have completely different personalities and developed at different speeds. I have 6 children all together and I learned to let them go at their own pace with most major milestones...
I have learned as a mother of 6 is to let them go at their own pace..
All of my children seem to be devoloping extremely well actually a little advanced for theyre age i have no concerns developmentally
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